1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on Miss USA! You’ve said what I’ve wanted to but couldn’t find the words…it’s not the fact that these women are deemed more “hot” or “sexy” than me (and almost all other women) that makes Miss USA pageants annoying. It’s the fact that ANY woman could be deemed the most attractive by being given a crown. We should be celebrating all women for their own unique attributes–even those attributes not usually seen by society as “worthy.” (I am with you on the strong thighs…I, too, have strong, short legs that would never get me into a beauty pageant.) Contests like Miss USA perpetuate the idea that women can be judged against each other just because of how they look, and that if they don’t meet some sort of standard, they are less worthy of society’s time and attention. Men are never judged against each other based on their looks in a serious way, but women are still subject to this kind of judgement even beyond beauty pageants: in the workplace, when they walk down the street and even in middle school. This is a long-winded way of me saying this: if women lift each other up instead of being jealous of what other women look like, the world would be a happier place.

    • gracefulfitness

      Thanks a lot for your comment, Elise. I must admit, I wrote that post in a hurry last night, just trying to get my thoughts out. I saw this morning how sloppy it was so it has since been proofed and edited a bit, hope you enjoy the revision!

  2. Dave showed me the Miss Utah clip ( we’re from Utah) the other night; and while the whole pageantry issue appalls me, I was disgusted she couldn’t come up w one intelligent response. Come on, here’s your girl power moment. Female equality – really? Nothing? You’ve not rehearsed this type of question? But your points, Faith, remind me: why would these ladies, participating in an exploitative, superficial show of female comparison, be concerned w real issues like male-female equality? Ugh. I love that you wrote about this. I think we will forever struggle not to compare, and “fight” other women for the coveted “top ranking” – due to social influence – but I too have learned this is the only way I come to terms w and appreciate my own beauty and strengths. It’s useless to compare. I’m striving to simply be inspired by strong, beautiful women, like yourself. More useful, and I’m happier.

    • gracefulfitness

      Allie, yes I find it really ridiculous that they bother with the token “deep” question when it’s really just a beauty pageant.

  3. You provided another wonderful experience of being a parent to such beautiful, bright, thoughtful, self aware, progressive daughters.

  4. Debra

    I’m not a fan of beauty contests or any contests for that matter. She is very young and seemed to be very nervous. Even at my advanced age I come out with some pretty dumb sounding things.

    • gracefulfitness

      She definitely seemed nervous and knew she was bombing when she let out that laugh. It’s the equivalent of tripping in the bikini portion except for the irony and implications go so much deeper.

  5. Natalie

    It really is depressing to watch. I sometimes think when I see something like this or see certain reality show figures (ahem-Kim kardashian) what would happen if you were totally stripped of your looks or sex appeal for some reason or another? Like, for instance, you age! God knows we don’t value older women in our culture. Or even a sudden change in physical appearance. What would they have (all of us actually) to fall back on? Just a reminder-you are not your body.
    Thanks for the reminder!

  6. Great write-up, Faith. This issue is so deeply ingrained but we do need to question it, challenge it, reverse it.

    The adult beauty pageants are bad enough, but what’s even more appalling to me are the pageants for children. Children who should be growing up exploring, playing, making friends, experimenting, learning, problem solving, etc who instead get subjected to this skewed idea of self-worth. So sad.

  7. Julia

    “The amount of beautiful people in this world need not be finite!”. This brought a smile to my face and my heart. It’s something that we all forget I think, when bombarded with people in the media we are supposed to look like, dress like, be. I have always felt that imperfections were the most beautiful traits possible, but have lost that a bit over the years. Thank you for the reminder!

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