1. kate

    Hey Faith

    I don’t often comment on blogs, often because i feel very much like a lot of these women (whether it’s true or not?) all seem to be my age (or younger) and seemingly have their shit together…Im aware this is probably an internal struggle of my own and getting stuck in the comparison trap, but they often feel so foreign to me, as I, like you, have travelled, lived abroad (country number 6 and about to move to the US actually – Im english) and do not have the trappings/nor ‘adult’ life society often dictates to us! It’s SO refreshing to hear something like this that i can relate to! My husband and I are about to move again, and our international relationship has meant we’ve avoided (been unable?!) to buy houses, be settled and all that…do these so-called ‘adult’ thing that many of my peers are currently doing. I have no regrets and am happy with our choices, but gosh it’s nice to know we’re not alone! I really hope I’m able to connect with women similar to myself when we get there 🙂

    Great blog!

      • kate

        California! He’s going (already there) to grad school in Berkeley. Can’t say i’m not anxious, of all the places i’ve lived, America is making me the most nervous of the lot! I can speak the language! What is wrong with me?!!

        • gracefulfitness

          That is ironic! It shouldn’t be too hard of a transition, culturally, especially since he’s already here. Berkeley is cool, I love that part of CA. Best wishes!!!

  2. I was actually just thinking about this this morning and how my “developmental age” fluctuates in different areas of my life. I am 34 and it was just last week (Veteran’s Day) that I decided to lounge around all day in my pajamas, watching reruns of “Gilmore Girls.” I sent a text message to a friend stating, “Sometimes I feel like I am perpetually 12.” I also just recently got married and have never felt the rush to marry and have children. In a lot of ways, I fell behind the “growing up” of my peers. However, I have a graduate degree and a few certifications. I work full-time and run my own practice on the side. So when it comes to work, I feel majorly grown up. And weekends? Well, some weekends I feel like I am 64 and other weekends, I feel like I am 21 (or at least I act that way). 🙂 Definitely a spectrum.

  3. At almost 38, I am most definitely an adult. I have 2 kids, own a business, have been married for over 15 years, have a mortgage, have a Dr. in front of my name, pay my bills, have my student loans paid off, and never get ID’ed anymore. Most people ask how I do it all.
    Even with all these accomplishments and the accoutrements of adulthood, I certainly don’t FEEL like a grown-up yet. Part of that is that I have a problem with perfectionism and tend to focus on what I haven’t achieved (permanent weight loss, a regular fitness routine, healthy eating long-term), rather on what I have accomplished. Guess that goes along with my case of the “shoulds.”
    I think that as long as you continue to grow, it’s all good.

  4. I think it’s more challenging to navigate being an adult in this generation. When I was teaching high school, the hallways were lined with graduating class photos from 1901-on. Sometime in the 70s, the graduates all started looking younger. In the 40s, they all looked like adults. Maybe they just “looked” like adults, but I think of my grandparents generation and how at my age (34) they had several children, a mortgage, jobs, had been to war, didn’t have college degrees but had the life adults live. My degrees and certifications don’t make me feel like an adult. After college, I too had to move in with my parents for a while. And I wondered for the longest time when I would feel like an adult too. I don’t know when it happened, but I feel like an adult now. I think it has to do with the fact I’m not seeking anymore. I feel at home with who I am and where I am. Even though there are still things I want to accomplish, I don’t feel that restless longing…

    Great post, got me thinking!

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